In life, you really can’t get things your way all the time. Yeah, I know that. However, when heart is already focused so much on getting Plan A to work out (plus, dreaming of what I’d do when Plan A works out), it’s hard to accept, knowing it will change a lot of things, undo a lot of things, and lose some. But the thing is, I should not just look onto those that I’ve lost. Many times I’ve said I rather look at what’s happening to me darkly. However, actually I may be of the optimistic kind.
I do not believe in things happening as things that are meant to happen. I believe things happen because as an effect of a relative cause, something that can be manipulated, something that can be controlled. And, of course, a tiny little part that’s uncontrolled. But do I have to linger on such uncontrollable things? Do I have to focus on those things that I should have been able to manipulate but wasn’t able to do so? I guess not.
For me, I have lost some today. But that doesn’t mean I can’t do anything anymore.
Time for Plan B. The way may be different but the goal will always be the same: fulfillment and happiness.
After all, if I can’t find the way for me, then nobody will.
January 27th, 2008 at 15:08
hi doc,
I like your statement when you said, “I do not believe in things happening as things that are meant to happen. I believe things happen because as an effect of a relative cause, something that can be manipulated, something that can be controlled”.
Yes, things happen because there is a reason, an effect. However, sometimes things can be controlled. Therefore, am I right to say that you are not inclined to believe in destiny?
regards.
January 28th, 2008 at 11:36
to kidglove:
I do not believe in destiny in such a way that I attribute things happening in my life as something that is pre-programmed and that I cannot do anything about it. I see us, humans, as being free-willed and with this freedom, we should accept responsibility, as well, not just merely attribute our losses or wins to someone or something that has made this “destiny” for us. I’d rather accept the responsibility of my mistakes rather than tell people that I’ve made such actions because “I was meant to be like that” or that “I was left with no choice”.