…specifically men who don’t do the dishes, even if they can. That’s something I hate about my dad. Even if he isn’t sick, he still do this. I hate it when I’m so tired from work and I come home seeing this. It’s as if he doesn’t know how to do any household chores. Maybe he could fry hotdogs and eggs or cook rice but he does it because he needs to feed himself. Often times my mom and I aren’t home because we work and so my dad is left at home. But I just hate it when he has to leave dirty dishes and utensils like these. Especially when you’re already bone tired from work. What does he expect? That my mom, tired that she is, is going to do these dishes, one day stagnant on the sink, on top of cooking for dinner? He could have cleaned it by himself. But he won’t. Because I think he still believes that women should do all the chores in the house. I think he still lives in that era. But I can’t tell him that. He’s not that open to “suggestions” or rather wake-up calls.
Grrr…. Men.
June 15th, 2007 at 0:53
I can SOOO relate to this rant. Only thing my husband is truly capable of doing, besides making messes, is actually doing his own laundry. So, I suppose I have somewhat of a bonus, considering I do a LOT of laundry between myself and our two children!
I love your blog and am adding it to my feeds as we speak!!
June 15th, 2007 at 10:05
to Karlana: Thanks for liking my blog
I really don’t understand why men just can’t do the dishes. What’s so hard about washing dishes? It’s good that your husband knows how to do laundry. Most men I know do not even touch the washing machine! As if it’s even more complicated than their playstations! Ugh.
June 15th, 2007 at 10:19
Well I am a guy and I have always did household chores and don’t mind doing the dishes, cooking, or anything else. I have always did my own laundry.
I think in depends on the person and not just “men” in general.
June 15th, 2007 at 11:12
Hah! I know what you mean. My brothers are pigs too. I always end up cleaning their mess. I mean, they know how to use the utensils, why can’t they learn how to wash them?
June 15th, 2007 at 17:12
I think that depends on how they were raised. Your dad does come from that generation.
Ako naman hindi ko kayang maghugas ng pinggan kapag may katulong. Kapag maghuhugas naman ako ng pinggan gusto ko magkasama kami ng asawa ko maghugas ng pinggan. Nabobore kasi ako kapag walang kausap habang naghuhugas. Weird ‘no? :p
The one thing I never learned to do was the laundry. Fortunately there’s either the katulong or the laundromat. LOL.
About the only chore that I know men love doing but most women don’t is washing the car. Go figure.
June 15th, 2007 at 18:36
hahahah! I am just laughing..
I enjoy your entries..would you like to exhchange links?
Men have to be punished and washing the dishes is one big punishment for them. The prefer sitting down infront of T.V than in the kitchen.
Kiss
Fendi
June 15th, 2007 at 18:52
That’s funny. Actually I hate washing dishes myself. My guy friends think likewise. My friend Jenesis even had a reason for it. His legs itch daw everytime he’s doing the sink chore.
Anther funny thing is that we have that very exact same bowl. The one that’s accented with green.
June 15th, 2007 at 19:12
to Enlight: That’s why I specifically said that what I wrote in the post is “something I hate in men specifically those that don’t do the dishes”. That meant that I’m not including all men in that conclusion. However, in here, most men do hate doing the dishes and will look for all ways just to avoid doing that chore.
June 15th, 2007 at 19:15
to Joni: Probably they got used to just leaving their used dishes on the sink, just like my dad. Haha. It’s hard to remove that “habit”. All the more difficult because they refuse to make an effort to do so because they still believe that women should do all the household chores.
June 15th, 2007 at 19:19
to Jon Limjap: The car is hard to wash because it’s big. If it were as small as a dish, I wouldn’t mind washing it hehehe. I can’t really relate much because I don’t have my own car. But if I do have my own, I’d just take it to the carwash hehehe. It’s different, however, compared to washing dishes. You don’t wash your car everyday, do you?
Maybe you just like someone doing the dishes with you so you won’t feel that you’re the only one having to do the household chores. Hahaha.
June 15th, 2007 at 19:20
to Fendi: Sure, let’s exchange links
June 15th, 2007 at 19:27
to Arlo: It’s a common design for bowls. Or rather, it’s a bowl easily found at SM Department store, I think. Hehe. But I think men should also know how to do the dishes. What would you do if you’re left alone in the house? Just call for food delivery?
June 15th, 2007 at 20:39
Actually men can do the dishes. I think the procedure can be executed using common sense. We’re just too lazy to do it, that’s why.
June 15th, 2007 at 20:55
Haha. Pag ako nag-asawa siya taong-bahay kaya I’ll make sure I pick one na marunong magtrabaho sa bahay. LOL.
June 15th, 2007 at 22:06
hey doc tess! been lurking around your blog for sometime now and i think i do need to make a comment.
you see, i’m not a homebody and i guess i’d have to find that guy who’d be able to do the dishes and do the household chores. well, at least, he should know how to cook. haha. 
anyhow, if men still do believe that women (womyn for feminists) should be the one to do the chores, then they should start changing such a thought. i mean, we are not in the olden times anymore. women are also working now so household chores now should be 50-50. well, at least, that’s my opinion.
June 15th, 2007 at 22:09
Heeeyyy! We’re outnumbered! Alright. We do the dishes if it’s really necessary. There’s no problem with that. Geez, it’s just the dishes.
June 15th, 2007 at 22:50
hmmm… well, for the record, my brothers live in this generation and they do know how to do dishes. but they can be really lazy though. guess training is needed to raise guys who’d do chores as well? whatever… i could be lazy too. lucky my bf knows how… (but we share chores syempre…)
June 15th, 2007 at 23:35
oh my! men why are they always like that! they won’t give a damn helping out.. i do know of some men who knows how to do the dishes but it’s (most of the times) their dishes that they do not others. whatta crap!
but with due respect to those types of guy, they can do better in other aspects. wag lang talaga sa gawaing bahay! lol
June 16th, 2007 at 3:06
I think am going to doze off!
June 16th, 2007 at 8:21
to Arlo: Well, I’m not questioning men’s ability to wash dishes. Of course, they can. What’s difficult about it? The point is, men should also do their share of the household chores. Laziness isn’t an excuse. It’s a trivial thing. But what makes it a common issue of fighting among couples and the household is the delegation of the chores. I guess men see it as being too “womanly” having to wash dishes. But it shouldn’t be the mentality. Maybe you guys are good at fixing stuff but women can do that too. And as if you fix stuff everyday. But washing dishes should be done everytime you use it, not once a day or every other day, which some men I know do. Ugh.
June 16th, 2007 at 8:22
to Gean: Mahihirapan ka yata maghanap ng ganyan ngayon. Hehe.
June 16th, 2007 at 8:26
to atomicgirl: Yes, I do agree with you that household chores should be equally shared among the household or between a couple. Sometimes, I think, women are the stronger ones because of all the stuff that we can do.
Uh-oh, the men are already thinking they’re outnumbered. Hehe. Too bad for them
June 16th, 2007 at 8:30
to andianka: Lucky for you! Yeah, the laziness is the problem. I really don’t like it when there are unwashed dishes left in the sink. It’s not a pretty sight. I can handle a dirty, unorganized room but not unwashed dishes left in the sink. I HATE IT.
June 16th, 2007 at 8:31
to Arlo: It’s not good fighting over unwashed dishes.
June 16th, 2007 at 8:34
to mats: As Mr. Jon Limjap said, it’s because of how we were raised. But I do have to add that even if we’re raised to think that women should be doing the household chores and not the men, we do already know now that’s not how it should be. So we shouldn’t be resigned to the idea that since we were raised that way, we should do it that way. We can change ourselves for the better, can’t we? But it’s hard knocking out the lazy habit from some “old-fashioned” men.
June 16th, 2007 at 8:35
to Jeffrey: I think sleepiness is also one of the excuses men use for not washing the dishes. Haha!
June 16th, 2007 at 18:25
I do the dishes during the morning and noon, my nephew do his share in the evening. my mom is too tired to go over the dishes coming home from work. I know how to do the laundry too, but if I do that, our laundry woman will be unemployed
Paghugasin mo na ako ng pinggan wag mo lang ako utusan kung saan saan. 
nagpapraktis na maging andres de saya Haha!
Cheers doc!
June 16th, 2007 at 20:51
Just so you know, I’m the official dishwasher of the family. It’s no joy to do that.
June 17th, 2007 at 6:16
I can so so soooo relate! My dad doesn’t even know the meaning of the word “chores” when it applies to him. My mom and I should always do everything in our house.
Hehe, I have that green bowl as well. :p
June 17th, 2007 at 15:18
I hate doing the dishes too! :p But I had to learn to do that since I live alone now. My room’s a mess but I’m a great cook. haha
June 17th, 2007 at 18:04
to bluepanjeet: Good for you that you do your share of the household work
Keep it up!
June 17th, 2007 at 18:05
to Ade: Well, at least you don’t have to do the cooking on top of the dishwashing. Cooking + dishwashing = very tiring.
June 17th, 2007 at 18:08
to Shari: That’s why it is so frustrating seeing those dirty dishes left stagnant in the sink. It’s as if he’s so busy he can’t even manage to wash the dishes. He’s retired. He’s got all the time for it! Imagine, if my mom and I have to leave him alone in the house for 30 days, he’d run out of dishes to use because he refuse to do the washing!
June 17th, 2007 at 18:10
to Benj: At least you know how to take care of yourself in the house. Not too many guys are willing to do that, thinking that there are ALWAYS women who’d do those things for them. Leaving on your own in a dormitory or an apartment is one HUGE learning experience for anybody. I learned a lot during my apartment days during college and med school.