Every girl’s least favorite topics would definitely include the Ex-Files. These are sporadic talks with the beau/boyfriend/lover about the women/men that he had relationships with (and suddenly I’m hearing the song, “to all the girls I’ve loved before…”) or those ironic circumstances wherein you and your beau/boyfriend/lover would run into one of the ex-girlfriends/boyfriends and you’d be annoyed to see in his/her face that he/she was actually glad of the accidental meeting. Actually, any mention of the “Ex” at all during the span of a couple’s relationship usually brings about, at the very least, a tense moment or an awkward episode of teasing that perhaps could inevitably lead to another bout of lovers’ quarrel. Unless you are such an ultra-cool girlfriend/boyfriend who’s never bothered by your partner’s previous contacts (when actually you should be because, whenever you’re making love with your partner, you’re also “making love” with them). And that’s why the Ex-Files are usually kept in the farthest, darkest corner of the relationship vault. It can even be put under separate lock, safe, or whatever. It is that delicate.
But when the beau in question is not really a lover but more of the ”more than a friend, less than a lover” sort, the rules become either much more complicated or there are no rules at all.
I have previously posted that I haven’t heard for a long time from Narcissus (2 days of no communication is a long time for me). I was calling his globe and sun numbers and he hasn’t answered any of it. I rang his house and the girl who answered told me he wasn’t home. Geesh, this guy could really disappear into thin air when he wants to. Only about after 2 or 3 calls did he text back, telling me he was sorry he wasn’t able to reply or return the call because he was in his ex-bf’s house (let’s give him the name Lee), cleaning.
What the hell…
What is he doing there? I mean, only a few days ago they were fighting because of some complications in the relationship and broke up because of it. And now, they’re suddenly friends and he is cleaning his house?!?!
I confronted him (just in text, of course) and asked if he was back together with Lee or with Dan (his other ex-bf. I hope I’m not losing you. To further clarify the relationships, Narcissus was with Lee and Dan in a relationship at the same time during these past few months. The dilemma started when Dan decided to leave Narcissus and be in a relationship with Lee, instead. Narcissus, then, who had two bfs, suddenly found himself bf-less. And I’m supposed to babysit him while he nurses his own broken heart). Narcissus answered that the three of them talked and they agreed to remain just friends. But I really couldn’t believe it. I mean, like two days ago, they were really emotional and suddenly, they made up and are friends again. With no hurt feelings. And he’s now cleaning his house?!?! A little thought keeps nagging me from the back of my mind. Probably why Narcissus was silent for the past two days was because he was staying in Lee’s house and they’re doing it there.
Goodness, does Narcissus think he could make me believe that he cares for me when, in any day he wishes, he could go to his ex’s house and clean it?!?! Okay, okay, they’re friends now. But it doesn’t really sound so innocent. It will never be an innocent visit. Isn’t it that everytime you chance upon an ex-lover, you’d still feel that little tingle inside because of the memory of your previous romance, though it may be that you know you don’t really love him/her anymore?
Men. Even when they are bisexuals, I could never understand them.
